In the US every year on the last Thursday in November we get together with family and close friends to…engorge, imbibe and put on our game face. We call it Thanksgiving, but it’s the rare gathering that actually takes time to express gratitude in the midst of the turkey, gravy and stuffing. It takes a certain bravery to be the one to break up the busy conversation for a moment of silence, prayer, poetry or, even braver, a request that everyone tell what they are grateful for. (Can you hear the collective groan?)
Throughout much of the country the weather turns cold and we just want to be cozy. We may want to hide away from the news of the world, as it takes on a fierce quality, harsh as the winds that shake the house. It feels like the newscasters are just making this stuff up to scare us. And in some ways that is true because of where they focus, how they frame it, and the need to lead with what bleeds, knowing our negativity bias.
This year we are getting to know our future president, whomever he or she may be. That enforced and extended uncertainty can be stressful, particularly when the field is so large and the candidates so… well…
We may have issues we feel strongly about, and we may feel frustrated when fellow citizens don’t seem to care, or worse, see us as the problem. And even those who share our views can get distracted by things we may consider non-issues.
The world seems full of testosterone-crazed nihilists causing havoc and heartbreak both here and abroad. We feel compassion for those who are without a home and who may feel without hope. And we are inspired by those who rise above base fears to embrace shared humanity, as when Germans greeted beleaguered refugees with generosity and compassion, or when Parisians of all ethnicities and religions hugged each other in peace after an attack on their city. This too is the world we live in. For that triumph of the human spirit we are especially grateful.
On a Thanksgiving in turbulent times, we have the capacity to deepen in gratitude for being present, together, enjoying cherished traditions. For some of us, this is our first Thanksgiving without a loved one who was very much a part of our tradition, but gratitude is still possible. We are grateful to be alive to experience whatever life brings, regardless of current circumstances or conditions.
So if you feel inspired to be the one to tap your glass and bring the table to a brief moment of sharing in this deep way, know that just below the surface we all may be feeling a little vulnerable right now and perhaps more ready than usual to acknowledge our blessings.
Happy Thanksgiving to all!
May all beings be well. May all beings be at ease. May all beings be at peace. May all beings be happy.
What a lovely post Stephanie. I’m grateful to you for taking the time to write such inspiring words, and for giving me the courage to try, yet again this year, to break up the lively dinner conversation and reflect on what we are most grateful for.
Good luck, Marleen! People may resist but later they discover that it’s that moment of sharing that they cherish the most in retrospect. We’re funny that way! Happy Thanksgiving!
Thanks to those of you who have emailed your kind words of appreciation on this post. Some of you prefer to email because you’ve had trouble with posting comments in the past. But now the blog is on a new program (WordPress instead of Blogger) and is apparently much easier to comment, so PLEASE GIVE IT A TRY! Gratitude to all my readers, but especially to those who comment since that helps me shape future posts to meet your needs. xo, Stephanie