10 TIPS TO CALM THE MIND

Whether you meditate or not, there are times when you wish your busy mind would ease up and let you enjoy the present moment with your full attention. The constant drone of recurring thoughts endlessly planning and remembering, can feel like they are really getting in the way of enjoying a walk in nature, listening to a friend, playing with your children, or enjoying an intimate time with the one you love. With practice you can learn how to allow these thoughts to arise and fall away while still retaining a sense of being present. But wouldn’t it be wonderful to be fully present to enjoy life as it is? Here are some simple techniques you can use to calm a chattering mind. Because each of us is different, some of these will suit you better than others. Try them and see what works best for you.

1. Tension check
Where in your body are you feeling tightness? Breathe into the area. Gently loosen your jaw and move your neck back and forth in micro-movements. Stretch, yawn, relax and massage whatever is holding tension. Shake your arms. See what of these techniques seems most effective to release the tension.

2. Be kind to your mind.
Getting upset about the inner chatter will just cause tension and stimulate a sequence of negative thoughts to play out. So don’t scold your mind for its busyness. Instead just be aware of the chatter, then simply say, “It’s okay” or “I’ll think about that later” or “Just meditating” or “Just breathing” – whatever simple compassionate phrase works for you – and bring your attention gently back to the focus at hand. You may find you have to do this many times, but don’t be discouraged.

3. Sky
Trying to clear your mind of thoughts is like wishing the sky was always clear. But thoughts, like clouds, do come. And like clouds, thoughts are a natural occurrence, not to be pushed away. Instead, observe the thoughts as you would the clouds. If you get caught up in the fog of a thought, then, once it has passed, simply note its passing. Judging our having gotten caught up in a thought-cloud just sets up tension and defeats the process.

4. Vortex
If so many thoughts are whirling around your mind that it’s more of a full-blown storm than a cloudy day, visualize the whirling increasing, creating a vortex so strong you can’t see any individual idea. It’s all a blur. Then sit in the calm center of the funnel cloud you have created and enjoy the peace.

5. Loving Kindness
Whatever situation or person you are thinking about, send a wish for the situation or the person to be well. That is the most you can do from this place and time, and it lets you come back to the present feeling less judgmental for letting your mind wander elsewhere. Sending kind universal loving thoughts (metta) to yourself, loved ones, strangers, situations and the world at large, is a traditional Buddhist meditation. You can use it for the final part of any meditation, or as your regular meditation. Be sure not to skip sending metta to yourself first. It may be harder than you think! Once you have the hang of it, challenge yourself to send loving kindness to someone you find most difficult.

6. Training the Puppy
When you have a puppy who bounces around and wanders everywhere and doesn’t follow
orders, how to you train it? With harsh words and whippings? Your mind is a puppy trying to learn a new set of skills. Treat it with love and encouragement.
When it wanders, bring it back gently like a puppy on a leash.

7. Outgoing Tide
Imagine sitting on the beach watching the waves coming in and washing your thoughts away on an outgoing tide. Match the tide to your in and out breath.

8. Noting
Every thought you have is either in the past or in the future, remembering or planning, with pleasure, regret or worry. When a thought comes in, you can note whether it is remembering thought or planning thought. If an emotion rises up, simply note ‘emotion’. While you can get overly caught up in cataloging, noting does enable you to begin to see your thoughts and emotions for the wisps of ever changing inner activity they are.

9. Cultivation
At any moment you can pause and ask yourself ‘What am I cultivating here?’ Sometimes we can see that we are cultivating anger, boredom, irritation, restlessness, etc. We can then reset our intention to cultivate spacious ease, clarity of mind and compassion for ourselves and others.

10. Here and now
This, just this…ah, bliss!  Allow yourself to be fully present with your body sensations without identifying them. If you hurt from sitting, try to be with the sensation without labeling it ‘pain’ and see how that is. If you hear something, try not to visualize what is making that noise or follow the thoughts that arise. Simply listen with interest to the sound itself.
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Perhaps one or more of these ideas will help you stay more present in your meditation and your life. Let go of all preconceived notions of what meditation should be. This is your experience, just for you. No comparisons, no judgments, just the experience itself held lightly in your compassionate embrace.